We Live Under the Same Roof, but We Don’t Live By the Same Values

Story By: Briana Garcia, Reporter

Hey! Hey! If you want to talk about politics that’s fine, but understand it won’t change my mind or what I believe in.

You are my parents and I respect what you stand for, but that doesn’t mean I have to agree with what you stand for. Which is fine, no family shares all the same beliefs. 

We are two different people who share the same genes, who happened to agree to disagree on opposite political beliefs. 

The political beliefs of our parents, and the household we are raised in, may or may not influence what our own beliefs are.

Growing up in an old fashioned household or a household that falls under a certain political party can take a toll on you.

Democratic or Republican — doesn’t matter what you call yourself if you aren’t able to speak your mind on the values you believe in.

Discussing politics with your fellow loved ones won’t get very far if you aren’t all on the same page.

You can’t change another person’s beliefs but you can help them better understand. Yes, what you believe in may seem right to you, but not to me, and that’s okay, just respect my decisions as I respect yours.

The path your parents have made for you, informs your thinking, following what their beliefs are.

According to research done by Stanford Professor Albert Bandura, children commonly mimic the behaviors of adults in their life.  Parents see this as an opportunity to try to pass their views onto their children. When they’re younger their brains are like sponges they soak up what you want them to understand and believe. 

Parents either want mirror images of themselves or to have their children understand that their beliefs are the only way to go about in the world. 

Elias Dinas said in a study about children who grew up with political parents, tend to grow older and may rebel against beliefs since they understand the world more. 

young people from politicized homes may be more likely to acquire an initial partisan orientation from their parents, they are also more likely to abandon that preference as they enter adulthood and experience politics for themselves,” mentioned Dinas 

Children who are raised under a declared party identification household tend to connect more with the rivalry party that their parents are loyal to because as they enter adulthood they are likely to understand politics for themselves.

Once you leave your parents home, as a young adult you are more than likely to come across those with different values and beliefs than you are accustomed to.

College, social media, and relationships are some of the ways you can be learning more about other beliefs and values. 

As children, we follow them, we want them to be proud that they are raising us but as we grow older we want to lead our own lives and not so much follow our parents forever. 

Naturally, we want to travel down the unbeaten path and adventure more on our own and find ourselves. 

Growing up in an environment where all you know is that marriage should be with a man and woman, LGBTQ+ rights don’t exist, and women should still serve and tend to the man. 

“I am democratic and my parents are those old fashioned Catholic Hispanic parents who still believe that women should subject to a man, that abortions are sinful, and marriage should only be between a man and woman,” said first-year student Olga Escoto, a Business Administration major. 

Escoto mentioned that “ I stand for equality for women, I don’t believe in my parents who don’t agree with how LGBTQ+ rights and I stand against them for not believing inequality for women.” 

With every generation, there is always going to be rebellion against views and beliefs because everyone is entitled to their own opinion and others will agree.

 It’s usually the older generation who don’t want to see the bigger picture of what has happened since their methodology of thinking.

It’s not going to remain the same, things are going to change no matter what, and with everything that has happened in the last 50 years. When the ideology and topics of that time were focused on the war for the older generation, it was the younger generation who were the ones saying to stay out of war and wanting peace.

It’s 2020, nothing is wrong with being educated on different values or beliefs or having loved ones understand what you stand for even though it isn’t what they agree with — respecting you as you respect them.